I’m a little embarrassed by my reaction yesterday when someone I really like asked me if I’d chat with some guy about coming out to his best friend. The guy is 24 y.o. and is afraid to do it.

Okay, I’ll be honest – I was jealous. Who’s this guy you’re talking to?, I thought. But, I know now that was ridiculous. We’re not seriously dating and I talk to random men all the time, so I’m over that.

With that out of the way, I also think my reaction comes from my belief that being in the closet at 24 seems ridiculous to me in the first place, but this is your best friend? If anything he should be the easiest person to come out to and if you’re as close as you think you are, he probably already knows. It reeks of a lack of courage. Living the life one desires is all about tackling fear. There is no other way. I am not impressed by people who acquiesce to a life that isn’t their ideal and, at the very least, don’t try to make their biggest dreams come true. Failure is always a possibility, but it’s the fact that you didn’t even try that will haunt you forever.

That said, I do feel embarrassed by my reaction yesterday. So, here it is – what I would say to the guy if I did speak with him:

You do not understand how much better life is after you come out. The point of life, in my opinion, is to make the person outside as close to the person you are inside. Part of that is living out your sexuality. I truly believe that my creativity exploded exponentially once I came out to my last family member, my mother. And she took it like a champ and not at all with the serpents I imagined would spew out of her. There was no reason that she would react awfully, but that’s what I mean about fear. It can concoct some amazing images to keep you stagnant.

As far as timing – there is no right time. Coming out doesn’t have a date or a time or a place. It’s not something one can put a date by in your baby book. It is one of those amazing life experiences that we are granted for being homo. It is the doorway to freedom that only we have. It’s the ticket to being extraoardinary. Being homo by nature breaks all the rules and you can’t enjoy that blessing until you’re living an out life. So, blurt it out. Let it spill over your friend like shining rays of sun, damn it. Start living your birth right – a life free from the bland normality that most people live.

Okay, guilt over – Doesn’t the Beyonce song – Check On It – make you want to wiggle your ass?